Today’s post is just a quick appreciation post for a couple of friends of mine who are really good about understanding and accommodating my needs. They set a really good example that I think others could benefit from, so sit down, get comfy, and let […]
A few weeks ago there were a couple of posts making the rounds in the autistic community about never feeling included. We joked about having to be explicitly invited like vampires and just having some innate understanding that when people say “we”, it means them […]
A friend of mine who works with autistic and other ND kids in a school setting recently asked me for some advice. A teacher had asked her for help with a kid in her class who hates it when people get close to him and […]
I’ve spent many years teaching myself how to pass as a Neurotypical person for at least a few hours a day. While my ability to mask in public has served me well in helping me to hold down jobs and such, it’s also taken a […]
We were all taught the Golden Rule as small children – “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” – but for autistic people, this idea can be tricky when put into practice. Because we operate on a different wavelength than neurotypical […]
All this social distancing and staying home is often thought of as an introvert’s – or an autistic person’s – dream come true. And while that’s not necessarily wrong, I’ve found that I’ve lost a considerable amount of my social skills in the isolation (despite […]
This isn’t a great, well thought out post, but it’s necessary today. If you’ve ever dealt with well-intentioned NTs, I think this situation will be familiar to you and I honestly don’t know how to handle it, so I think we should talk about this. […]
I’ve wanted to write this post for a while and I’ve put it off because I really wanted to do this topic justice. So I’m doing it now and hopefully I’m doing it well. Growing up autistic, especially not knowing it, was really hard. Navigating […]
Socialization isn’t easy for most of us on the autism spectrum. Every interaction is fraught with unspoken cues that we may miss, having to watch the tone and volume of our voices, all that social calculus. Often, we try to mask our way through it […]
Emotional labor is part of learning to regulate and handle your emotions – things that many autistic adults struggle with. It’s learning to name your feelings and deal with them instead of bottling them up or letting them explode all over anyone who happens to […]
