We were all taught the Golden Rule as small children – “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” – but for autistic people, this idea can be tricky when put into practice. Because we operate on a different wavelength than neurotypical […]
Following on from last week’s post, today I want to talk about boundaries. Boundaries are magical things. They keep us safe, they determine what treatment we will and won’t tolerate, and they give us a clear way to know when someone does not have our […]
Recently, I saw yet another social media post where some uninformed person said that autistic people can’t date, can’t marry, don’t have feelings, etc., etc., etc. This annoys me to no end, so I’m saying it again. We. Have. Feelings. We. Have. Relationships. We are […]
Emotional labor is part of learning to regulate and handle your emotions – things that many autistic adults struggle with. It’s learning to name your feelings and deal with them instead of bottling them up or letting them explode all over anyone who happens to […]
Managing expectations can be a challenge for many of us on the spectrum. I’ve talked about this before in a general sense, but today’s post is specifically about expectations in relationships – yes, autistic people are capable of romantic relationships just like everyone else! Autistic […]
Autistic relationships have all the same problems as NT relationships, plus a few that are specific to the spectrum. Dating other autistic people can ease some of those issues, but it’s no guarantee that things will be better. I dated a fellow Aspie (undiagnosed) who […]
Among the unfair perceptions and misinformation about autistic people is the idea that we’re unfeeling robots. I’m certainly not, and I’m pretty sure any autistic adult can tell you that we feel just as much as any NT, and maybe more. If we come off […]
Gasp and clutch your pearls, NTs, because I’m about to say something that may shock you. Autistic adults have sex. On purpose, and with consent. And we enjoy it. Some of us have a lot of sex. Some of us have more sex than you. […]
