Some people see self-care as a luxury, albeit a “necessary” one. Hot baths, face masks, and time spent on hobbies are considered just as important as drinking plenty of water and eating good, nutritious food. But when you’re autistic, self-care is not optional. It’s not […]
There’s always a lot of talk about the sensory challenges and struggles of autistic people that lead to sensory overwhelm and sometimes meltdowns. But it’s not all bad! There are lots of happy, joyful, pleasing, exciting sensory things as well. Our enhanced autistic senses make […]
This isn’t a great, well thought out post, but it’s necessary today. If you’ve ever dealt with well-intentioned NTs, I think this situation will be familiar to you and I honestly don’t know how to handle it, so I think we should talk about this. […]
In pretty much everything I write, on the blog and on social media, you’ll find that I say “autistic” or talk about “being autistic” instead of saying “person with autism” or talking about “having autism”. The language I use is called identity-first language, while the […]
It’s time once again for me to remind my American readers that fireworks can be a real problem for autistic people of all ages. Where I live, Independence Day fireworks start July 1 and go on through at least July 5, but across the country, […]
Following on from last week’s post, today I want to talk about boundaries. Boundaries are magical things. They keep us safe, they determine what treatment we will and won’t tolerate, and they give us a clear way to know when someone does not have our […]
Recently, I saw yet another social media post where some uninformed person said that autistic people can’t date, can’t marry, don’t have feelings, etc., etc., etc. This annoys me to no end, so I’m saying it again. We. Have. Feelings. We. Have. Relationships. We are […]
I’ve wanted to write this post for a while and I’ve put it off because I really wanted to do this topic justice. So I’m doing it now and hopefully I’m doing it well. Growing up autistic, especially not knowing it, was really hard. Navigating […]
I have trouble processing negative emotions. As in, I can’t name them, identify them, or sometimes even tell a negative emotion from physical discomfort. This is part of alexithymia, a trait commonly found in autistic people, which makes it hard for us to name and […]
As a prelude to an upcoming stimmy product review, today I want to talk about chewing as a stim and other oral stimming. I don’t have a lot of research on this, so I’m just going to tell you about my experience with being a […]
